What do these articles have in common? Similar traits that Jonathan Yaniv, aka Jessica Yaniv Simpson has displayed for years and has continued this predatory behavior.
Let me start by saying this article is not about the bathroom trans debate; I fully support trans people who are only looking to mind their own business and want to live their lives. This article is about the characteristics of predators who use the women’s bathroom and change room as a means to fulfill their twisted fantasy of being around vulnerable undressing girls and comparing those characteristics to Jonathan’s disturbing behavior.
According to many sources, there’s quite a lot of telling signs of a predator. When you read stories about predators sneaking into locker rooms and bathrooms to prey on girls, it baffles me how Yaniv doesn’t see the similarities. Here are just some of the warning signs that stick out the most.
Strong need to associate with children: He/she may show a preference for association with children. The person in question maintains very few friendships in his/her age bracket but gravitates towards younger people. If you have to ASK how to get close to young women, like trying to approach a deer, this should raise your alarm bells.
Structured access to children: Teaching, bus driving, sports coaching, camp counseling, and volunteering to help children’s activities all offer opportunities to be alone with children with no parental supervision. Jonathan Yaniv has a disturbing interest in LGBTQ youth concerns, from the infamous topless pool party, making sure trans teens have access to pads and tampons in their school bathroom despite hoarding tons of menstruation products of his own, etc. Instead of providing for mothers or parents of LBGTQ youth, Yaniv has a fixation on their kids, and at times has specifically tried to block parents from being involved.
Predators may portray themselves as being important or authoritative in an attempt to seem safe and trustworthy.
Entrapment through feelings and Munchausen: The predator encourages a child to develop feelings for them, entrapping the young victim in a situation where the child feels that the abuse is legitimized by his or her feelings for the abuser. Yaniv manipulates his victims through something called Munchausen syndrome (factitious disorder imposed on self.) This is when someone tries to get attention and sympathy by falsifying, inducing, and/or exaggerating an illness. They lie about symptoms, sabotage medical tests (like putting blood in their urine or in Jon’s case pads), or harm themselves to get the symptoms.
Over the years, Jonathan Yaniv has told young girls dozens of things to garner sympathy and create a bond. These include thoughts of suicide, cancer, tumours, rare diseases, gluten and seafood allergies, deafness, “breast” problems, brain problems, heart concerns, skin problems, diabetes, eating disorders, GI problems, genetic disorders, depression, anxiety, whiplash, various orthopedic problems, respiratory concerns, numerous issues with genitalia, reproductive organs, and gender identity, menstruation, medication and hormone use, and more. These are things typically reserved for close personal friendships but Yaniv – and other predators – bring them up rapidly in an effort to build closeness.
Disconnected and disrespectful: Predators may appear disconnected from normal peers. They also may be disrespectful of social boundaries. Yaniv’s long history of obsession with bonding with young teen girls has increasingly become more disturbing. Lately the latest is his desire to bond with a local swim team, all because he witnessed them changing in the locker room.
Imagine being in a locker room at the age of 15-16, you’re changing into your swimsuit, and you notice a middle aged person looking over their shoulder staring at you. Now they don’t interact with you in the pool, only in the locker room. Then suddenly said person tries to change next to you.
Depending on how big your comfort level is, this is either really disturbing, or really REALLY disturbing, especially if that person takes interest and tries to join your swim group, and this person is double your age. Yaniv most likely scoots away if a parent approaches their kid, since they only associate with teens. A normal healthy being usually wants to make new friends, but Jon’s predatory behavior makes him have a disconnect of what’s accepted behavior.
Makes fun of children’s body parts, describes children with sexual words like “stud” or “sexy” or talks again and again about the sexual activities of children or teens. Jonathan Yaniv seems to have no issue “trolling” people online about proudly hanging out with clearly younger girls. He will on one hand outright deny pedophilic behavior, then an hour later share on social media that he hangs around teen chat groups. In these chats there have been reports of Jonathan calling the teen girls in question “sexy” “gorgeous”, asking them if they are horny and will they potentially have sex with him. Jonathan also confirms their age before engaging in predatory conversation.
Along these same lines, a predator may try to disconnect a child from their age. Yaniv did this with Riley, telling her she was may more mature for her age, and she has a “sexy succulent” voice. He told 14/15 year old Riley that she was “such a pro” and said he might hire her one day to model for him. Even earlier, he told 13-year-old Riley that she didn’t sound 13, and he wondered what 10 more years would do to her. He’s commented on other girls breast size and growth.
When confronted, minimizes hurtful or harmful behaviors; denies harmfulness of actions or words despite a clear negative impact. In Jonathan’s case, despite the dozens of videos and photos serving as evidence, even during live streams where hundreds of people witness his disturbing behavior, he denies any wrongdoing and doesn’t use sound judgment. Predators may explain contact with minors with statements like, “I’ll talk to anyone, we’re just friends”. Yaniv said exactly that.
With this combination of behaviors, and Jonathan’s failure to understand what’s appropriate behavior, it’s imperative that young girls protect themselves not only online but especially in vulnerable locations such as locker rooms. Jonathan’s worst traits are that his creepy obsessions REQUIRE a 3rd party interaction. For his fantasies to be fulfilled, he REQUIRES the attention/presence of a younger girl. He has no sense of “no means no!” and doesn’t understand consent.
Ironically, for a person who claims he was sexually assaulted often in the men’s bathroom, he sure has no sense of boundaries in the women’s locker room. Keep safety in numbers and report to any adults if a person, man or woman, has a sudden interest in you while changing and/or in a vulnerable position. I do worry about the safety of others in Jonathan Yaniv’s presence.
That being said, teach your children and teens these tips on how to avoid predators such as Jonathan Yaniv.
Teach your kids that adults don’t need help from kids. If an adult needs directions, help to find a pet, or anything else, they should ask another adult, not a child. Teens, if you get approached by Jonathan Yaniv asking about tampons and pads, let him Google it and claim ignorance. Stay in a group or seek the safety of numbers. Avoid him online. If he harasses you online, take a screenshot of the conversation and report it to the Langley Police, but do not engage any further.
Let your child know it’s OK to yell, scream, and say no to an adult if they feel uncomfortable or scared. We teach children to listen to adults and not to be disruptive, but there are times they should disobey and be loud. It’s a good idea to practice with your kids. Please give them a scenario and have them practice say no firmly and loudly, screaming, and running away.
Be cautious and aware of identifying clothing. Personalized shirts, a team uniform, or clothing from your child’s school can provide a potential predator with valuable information. If they can call your child by name or mention their school or team, they may be able to trick your child into believing that they know them.
What does online child predator behavior look like? Most often, predators have one or more of the following goals:
- To obtain explicit photos of children (or to share pictures of their own)
- To meet in person and engage in sexual activity
- To engage in sexual conversation and/or online role-play
To achieve these goals, they will not only lie to children about their age, but they will also register as younger people when signing up for an online account. Grooming then takes place in several stages.
First, the predator earns the child’s trust through compliments, shared interests, and liking or commenting on their posts. Yaniv did this with fans of Cimorelli, Megan & Liz, Arianna Grande.
Second, after developing a positive rapport with the child, the predator aims to determine how involved the caregivers are — if there’s little or no online supervision, they will be emboldened to escalate their predatory behavior. Yaniv uses apps where private, one-to-one contact with girls is easier to hide from their parents, like Snapchat and LiveMe.
Third, the abuser attempts to normalize the sexual behavior he or she is seeking. For example, they might send the child unsolicited explicit images of himself/herself — or even of other children. Yaniv has a history of exposing himself to young girls and then acting like it’s no big deal. He flashed his nipple or male breast on webcam, then giggled like it was nothing. He sent Manda a picture of his dirty pad.
Fourth, the predator attempts to achieve their goal by asking for explicit photos, meeting in person, engaging in role-play, or blackmailing the victim for financial gain. Yaniv asked Manda to meet in person, and often commented the same with others. Earlier this year he was seen with a young girl named Megan, and he kisses her cheek. He told several other girls how he wished they could meet. He told 14-year-old Jess Rumpel that they should go to his high school reunion together. When she said she lived far away, he said he’d buy her a plane ticket.
Lastly, when the above doesn’t seem to work, predators will try to make their prey feel guilty or bad for them. Predators like Yaniv will say things that directly target the compassion and sympathy parts of others brains and hope for a positive outcome. Many of the young girls that spoke up against Yaniv commented that they felt bad for him and that’s why they went along with it for so long.
Please recognize these warning signs, if you find yourself in this situation, please, I urge you to NOT engage with this individual. And Merry Christmas.